EXPECTATIONS

Posted On October 11, 2020

I read somewhere, “keep your expectations high on achievement and low on people”. This should be each individuals Mantra . 

Misunderstandings, fights are all because of this one word Expectation. Is anyone sure of ones expectations ?? I doubt ! 

And then we start saying you didn’t do this for me you didn’t do that for me. Why do we expect ? Each one of us have a preconceived notion about Our selves. If somebody is a friend or family it doesn’t give us the right to expect things from them. The concept of a begging bowl isn’t very cool . That’s exactly what people are doing , claiming unreasonable expectations . You may ask me , define unreasonable expectations . I can go on and on with examples but will settle with just a couple of examples which will clear all the doubts.

• Nowadays, people expect a lot of materialistic things. Maybe expensive gifts for occasions. A fairytale date in a 5 star restaurant, designer outfits, bags and footwear. I wish people understood these expectations are so petty . These things never bring a smile on your face nor gives you any kind of satisfaction ever . 
• Some people want their kin beside them 24×7 , invading into private space , prying into their mobile phones , questioning every detail of their days activities , so on and so forth. This can actually get on to your nerves. 

Why cant people accept the near and dear ones the way they are. Most of the times , people try and mould the other to suit their convenience. In the process , there is so much of tussles, anger , quarrels , adjustments to meet the expectations. These are like rubber bands, u can’t pull and stretch beyond a point , it is bound to break . Similarly expections beyond a point suffocates and chokes a relationship. Sometimes a small form of expectation can lead to destroying relationships. 

I am not saying, u can’t expect material things or emotional connects from your close people . But keeping it a practice of expecting from your near and dear ones whether small or big gestures will definitely be considered wrong and would affect the other. 

If the person is dear to you, then things will come to you in leaps and bounds, more than you would have expected. So stop expecting anything from anyone. Just, simply choose and wear the right attitude and treat your loved ones with love and respect. Automatically you will be bestowed with everything you desire beyond your expectations. Keep the positivity within you alive and kicking always .